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How do you control your jealousy towards your lover?

Chay Hunnay, 22, accountant at Meta Biomed Co Ltd
My first step to controlling my jealously is to accept or at least be conscious that you are feeling jealous. Try not to ignore the feeling, and that way you can start finding ways to deal with your emotion. Second, If I see my lover talk or be close to another person, I try to be positive about it, I tell myself “it’s nothing, they are just friends.” It even helps to go and talk to this person who your lover is talking to so that your lover will have a better impression of you. Third, do not let your emotions control you, you don’t need to love your lover too much or love him more than yourself. Otherwise you will let your jealously get the best of you. So before you decide to have a relationship with someone, you should study or get to know him or her and decide whether that person is someone you can trust.


Leng Bunnarath, 27, sales executive at Brenntag Company
The best way for me to control my jealousy is with an open mind. Of course it’s hard to control your feelings especially when you are jealous and feel hurt. But I try to tell myself that I have to trust my lover and I will not be hurt. Being jealous will never make you happy, so we should try to be more understanding and reasonable.

Talking directly is another great tactic. It stops me from being suspicious and sad. For ladies like us, we have to remember that men care about face, so we cannot show anger or jealousy if we’re only trying to embarrass our lovers.


Nov Tam, 21, fourth-year student at University of Health and Sciences
Jealousy is something you just can’t control, it’s a natural feeling, like love, but it always gets you into a lot more trouble.

In my experience, I have found three ways to control my jealousy. First, self-control and discipline is important. Whenever I am feeling jealous about something, I try to talk myself out of it. I tell myself that being jealous won’t make me happy. Second, trust: if you don’t want to be jealous all the time, especially in relationships, you have to trust people and yourself.

I trust my girlfriend, I always remember that she does things for a reason and I have to trust her to strengthen our love.

Thirdly, if I feel that I am so jealous or angry about something and I just don’t know what to do, I prefer to go away for a bit and relax myself before I talk about it.


Mith Chanserypiseth, 20, ticketing at EY Travel and Tour
All couples will be jealous of each other for something. But what you have to work on is how to control that jealousy. I have had a few different lovers and have been in and out love many times before. I realize now that couples should not care too much about the actions of the person they love. We have to give them more freedom and trust that person so that our relationship can be strong and genuine. Couples should not hide their feelings about each other. For example, if I felt jealous of my girlfriend I would express my feelings to her directly and then we would find a solution together. Also, remember that women do not want a small-brained boyfriend who is insensitive.


SokSreyHouch, 22, receptionist at CamEd Business School
I am hardly a jealous person, even with my lover. When I start to feel jealous I always remind myself that my boyfriend loves me and that he would not do anything to hurt me. But sometimes this strategy doesn’t work, and our trust is limited.

It’s hard to control your emotions, especially when you are jealous. Sometimes when he does something, he tells me that there were reasons behind it, but when I am mad at him, his words go in one ear and come out the other. My friends always help me, I tell them about my misery and they always support me. It helps that they encourage me and are always optimistic about my relationship. Listening to music also helps me a lot, it brings back memories of when I met my boyfriend and it makes me miss him and reminds me how much I love him.

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