The letter from Kevin Charlebois titled "Rape and
Punishment" published in your last edition completely enraged me, to an extent
that the only way to calm myself is to write it down, to let him and other men
who have the same mind-set know how I feel about it.
What Kevin wrote
holds a personal grip to me. He carelessly points out that this14-year-old girl
is not a victim of rape but of common assault, and to my understanding he
believes no real harm has been done.
The reason why his words shook me is
because I have very close friends who are victims of rape, being a witness to
the amount of healing it takes to recover and the immense challenges they
endured to regain trust in men. Also, I feel that the women and men of CWCC, who
I am acquainted with, do not need someone like Kevin to tell them their daily
efforts are wrong and unjust. Their work is hard enough as it is.
why do you feel threatened? Are you the kind of man that throws your sexual
lifestyle in a frenzy as to completely become disconnected to decency and
respect for the opposite sex?
Why are you telling us, people of this
community, that those dedicated women and men of CWCC and the Phnom Penh Post
are not doing their job right? How come you are claiming that you know what
works within the Cambodian court system when you don't even live here?
is it that you come here for "Special Trips" and over the years discovered the
"ways" in which things "work" within the courtroom and are
My hope is that you wake up from whatever illusion you are
living in. Seriously. I want you to see that men have the most important role in
transforming acts of aggression towards women and children into peace and
We men need to be more responsible and mature about how we
conduct ourselves both physically, mentally and spiritually to others.
am not writing to preach to you, Kevin, I am writing to let you know how much
your words hurt me.
Before you whip more words out to degrade someone's
effort or disrespect the many victims of rape, think, just think beyond yourself
for just a split second and you will realize what a serious abuse it would be to
say such things.
Mark Crossland-Turgesen, Phnom Penh