I am a 21-year-old guy who just started a year-long internship at an NGO. I live at a guesthouse, and the other night a 40-year-old woman (who I assumed was a tourist) came on to me when we were both drunk.
Long story short, we did the deed and I woke up the next morning feeling a little weird about it. She, on the other hand, is totally down for round two. To make matters worse, it turns out she is also staying in town for the long-term and has no plans to move out of the guesthouse where we both live. I'm just a kid – my first sexual experience was less than a year ago. I've never even had a real girlfriend before, and now I have this cougar treating me like her cub.
What am I supposed to do? This is more than I bargained for.
Well, cub. What's the problem? Why are you “feeling a little weird”? Is it the lines around her eyes? The huskiness of her voice? Her years of experience? The fact that she could have children your age? Does she? Are you thinking of all the other little cubs that have come before you? Young man, take a step back and consider your situation: you’ve found your Mrs Robinson!
You said it yourself: you’re inexperienced. Honestly, there’s no better way to pick up some moves than by entering a cougar’s den. It sounds like she’s in for a little loving, no strings attached. It sounds like the ride would do you some good.
Women your age won’t be as patient with your rookie fumblings. An older woman seducing the young likely knows what she’s getting into. She probably isn’t expecting romance and a relationship from someone 19 years her junior. Sit down with her and establish some rules of engagement. Make sure you’re on the same page. If it’s just for sex, you can still go out, meet girls your age, then come home for occasional doses of education, and the things she could teach you about women . . . and yourself.
She’ll take pride in your education. How could you go wrong? Or is it that you don’t like her? Is the conversation dull? Did the attraction dissipate?
Really, I’d recommend getting over your hesitations and giving it a try. It can only make you a better lover. But – after all I’ve said – you’re still keen on killing the fling, man up! Let her know that you’re not interested. While honesty can be hard, it’s always appreciated. Or, if you’re resigned to being a boy forever, you can always pack your bags, tuck your little cub tail between your legs and move. Plenty of accommodation options in Phnom Penh.